You know what really grinds my gears?

[Ace_Moneymaker]

Re: You know what really grinds my gears?

I coach HS Basketball, and the amount of people who think it's okay to shout obscenities/insults towards coaches and players is unbelievable. Some people have no idea of what boundaries are.

Earlier this year, the other coaches and I had to stop two guys from walking in the locker room to 'confront' the HC after one of our losses.

[LambertandHam]

Re: You know what really grinds my gears?

I coach HS Basketball, and the amount of people who think it's okay to shout obscenities/insults towards coaches and players is unbelievable. Some people have no idea of what boundaries are.

Earlier this year, the other coaches and I had to stop two guys from walking in the locker room to 'confront' the HC after one of our losses.

Used to see this **** at little league too.

[Blzer]

Re: You know what really grinds my gears?

I coach HS Basketball, and the amount of people who think it's okay to shout obscenities/insults towards coaches and players is unbelievable. Some people have no idea of what boundaries are.

Earlier this year, the other coaches and I had to stop two guys from walking in the locker room to 'confront' the HC after one of our losses.

I coach girls high school softball, and just yesterday we were at another school, and each of my two first basemen I had played in the game are... a little on the heavier side... and they were apparently being sexually harassed, or at the very least body-shamed, by students from that school watching the game down the first base line.

Our dugout was on the third base side, so I didn't hear any of it. We eventually got to the umpires and the other coaches to get them to stop, but it brought my two girls to tears.

I wish they'd go **** off, and that their time spent heckling took over study time and they fail their upcoming ****ing tests.

[Ace_Moneymaker]

Re: You know what really grinds my gears?

I coach girls high school softball, and just yesterday we were at another school, and each of my two first basemen I had played in the game are... a little on the heavier side... and they were apparently being sexually harassed, or at the very least body-shamed, by students from that school watching the game down the first base line.

Our dugout was on the third base side, so I didn't hear any of it. We eventually got to the umpires and the other coaches to get them to stop, but it brought my two girls to tears.

I wish they'd go **** off, and that their time spent heckling took over study time and they fail their upcoming ****ing tests.

That Sucks! Good on you for standing up for your girls!

I coach boys basketball and thankfully most of the students have been cool, but what has shocked me is how many parents I've had to deal with.

Near the end of last season me and the JV HC had to sit for like 15 mins and console one of our guys after a game because his own father sent him a bunch of texts basically calling him worthless because he didn't play.

Honestly, the amount of parents I've seen who aren't willing to do the bare minimum for their kids is really frustrating.

[jasontoddwhitt]

Re: You know what really grinds my gears?

Why can't people leave it with "I'm sorry for your loss" when dealing with the loss of a loved one?

I don't need to hear, "If you need me for anything, just holler." I haven't seen or heard anything from you in the last 3-5 years, and now suddenly, you want to act like we're best friends? It comes off as insincere and trying to make themselves look good.

Or "I know what you're going through." No, No, you don't. You may have lost a family member in the past, but I don't care about that at this particular time. It just screams that they are trying to make it about themselves, even though I know most of the time, it's coming from a good place.

My personal favorite is the people who have no filter and feel the need to discuss what exactly happened injury-wise to your uncle who just tragically died in an accident. I don't need to know the grisly details. I can take one look in the coffin and get a pretty good idea of what happened, judging by the amount of makeup and a veil over the coffin to try and soften his facial features and discoloration. They had actually discussed doing a closed casket, but my aunt decided to have an open one. In one way, I understand. We all needed closure. On the other, it looked nothing like him.

Maybe I'm just raw emotionally from the past week after I lost my uncle. While I talked to my father and older brother about it (they both knew where I was coming from), I just needed to jot these thoughts down somewhere "on paper."

I'll close this out by saying never miss an opportunity to tell your loved ones you love them. You never know when that last time will be.

[Blzer]

Re: You know what really grinds my gears?

Why can't people leave it with "I'm sorry for your loss" when dealing with the loss of a loved one?

I don't need to hear, "If you need me for anything, just holler." I haven't seen or heard anything from you in the last 3-5 years, and now suddenly, you want to act like we're best friends? It comes off as insincere and trying to make themselves look good.

Or "I know what you're going through." No, No, you don't. You may have lost a family member in the past, but I don't care about that at this particular time. It just screams that they are trying to make it about themselves, even though I know most of the time, it's coming from a good place.

My personal favorite is the people who have no filter and feel the need to discuss what exactly happened injury-wise to your uncle who just tragically died in an accident. I don't need to know the grisly details. I can take one look in the coffin and get a pretty good idea of what happened, judging by the amount of makeup and a veil over the coffin to try and soften his facial features and discoloration. They had actually discussed doing a closed casket, but my aunt decided to have an open one. In one way, I understand. We all needed closure. On the other, it looked nothing like him.

Maybe I'm just raw emotionally from the past week after I lost my uncle. While I talked to my father and older brother about it (they both knew where I was coming from), I just needed to jot these thoughts down somewhere "on paper."

I'll close this out by saying never miss an opportunity to tell your loved ones you love them. You never know when that last time will be.

I'm sorry for your loss, and I agree that we all (myself included) never say those words enough.

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In response to the overall gear-grinder, I suppose this is a different strokes thing, really. If I ever say any of those things, it is a sincere reach out as an attempt to let them know that they don't have to go through something alone if they choose to find somebody just to let things out to, even if they have not spoken to me in a long time. While on some subconscious level I somehow feel like just saying "I'm sorry for your loss" comes off as generic, textbook, and vanilla without adding more flavor, every attempt to say more is a conscious effort not to make myself look better, but rather to make them feel better. There is nothing but sincerity involved.

I taught at a school for just one year once before moving, and there is one particular student I've stayed connected with through Facebook since. Have I messaged him much? A couple of times maybe, but I'll like some of his posts and he'll like some of mine. However, just around Christmastime he lost his younger sister. Not only did I reach out to him, but I reached out to his mom. The level of appreciation they had for me to just be a listening partner and having a shoulder to cry on (over text, mind you) was through the roof. They needed a way to ease the pain of things they had bottled up. Did everyone else reach out, too? Of course. I didn't ask for the time of day, though. I just let them know that I'd give it if they needed it. And we never know what somebody else is really going through, I agree. That doesn't mean that they don't want to eventually seek closure of acceptance in knowing that others around you have coped through the toughest of times (again, eventually).

When my father passed away, the wave of people who reached out just to talk about him, the man he was, and the number of lives he touched without me ever knowing it before was absolutely incredible. It made me feel like his life had completed more than I had known and I will ever know. It made the pain for me a little easier. Them saying how proud he was of me, etc. were genuine terms of endearment. I absorbed everything that anybody ever said to me. Having "I'm sorry for your loss," for me personally, felt like nothing more than an auto-generated blanket response for somebody who wanted to make themselves known again but didn't have the time of day to give me anything more. Although I never truly took it as such, in retrospect that to me feels more insincere. Do I really feel that way? Of course not. Reaching out means more than they know, and this was the exact case when I posted about it on OS. If they said more or less, they gave the time of day. I'm appreciative of it all.

Once again jtw, I'm sorry for your loss.

[ProfessaPackMan]

Re: You know what really grinds my gears?

I coach HS Basketball, and the amount of people who think it's okay to shout obscenities/insults towards coaches and players is unbelievable. Some people have no idea of what boundaries are.

Earlier this year, the other coaches and I had to stop two guys from walking in the locker room to 'confront' the HC after one of our losses.

I feel the same way about people who do this with College/Pro Athletes. Fans that take it above the usual trash talk are a bunch of losers.

[LambertandHam]

Re: You know what really grinds my gears?

Get one thing fixed and two more things break.

[ImTellinTim]

Re: You know what really grinds my gears?

I coach HS Basketball, and the amount of people who think it's okay to shout obscenities/insults towards coaches and players is unbelievable. Some people have no idea of what boundaries are.

Earlier this year, the other coaches and I had to stop two guys from walking in the locker room to 'confront' the HC after one of our losses.

I've been asked several times to get licensed to ref soccer because they have a shortage of refs in my area and people know that I know the sport. The only thing that has stopped me so far is that I'd have to start out at younger age levels, and I have no desire to deal with overbearing parents.

It's honestly easy money that would likely lead to doing HS/college games in a few years, and I think that could be kind of fun.

But getting yelled at from the sidelines for a call in a U10 or U12 game? Ehhhhh, not sure it's worth it.

[l3ulvl]

Re: You know what really grinds my gears?

I've been asked several times to get licensed to ref soccer because they have a shortage of refs in my area and people know that I know the sport. The only thing that has stopped me so far is that I'd have to start out at younger age levels, and I have no desire to deal with overbearing parents.

It's honestly easy money that would likely lead to doing HS/college games in a few years, and I think that could be kind of fun.

But getting yelled at from the sidelines for a call in a U10 or U12 game? Ehhhhh, not sure it's worth it.

I used to ref youth soccer for $5 a game, it was brutal, can't imagine reffing youth academy matches that actually matter

[roadman]

Re: You know what really grinds my gears?

Why can't people leave it with "I'm sorry for your loss" when dealing with the loss of a loved one?

I don't need to hear, "If you need me for anything, just holler." I haven't seen or heard anything from you in the last 3-5 years, and now suddenly, you want to act like we're best friends? It comes off as insincere and trying to make themselves look good.

Or "I know what you're going through." No, No, you don't. You may have lost a family member in the past, but I don't care about that at this particular time. It just screams that they are trying to make it about themselves, even though I know most of the time, it's coming from a good place.

My personal favorite is the people who have no filter and feel the need to discuss what exactly happened injury-wise to your uncle who just tragically died in an accident. I don't need to know the grisly details. I can take one look in the coffin and get a pretty good idea of what happened, judging by the amount of makeup and a veil over the coffin to try and soften his facial features and discoloration. They had actually discussed doing a closed casket, but my aunt decided to have an open one. In one way, I understand. We all needed closure. On the other, it looked nothing like him.

Maybe I'm just raw emotionally from the past week after I lost my uncle. While I talked to my father and older brother about it (they both knew where I was coming from), I just needed to jot these thoughts down somewhere "on paper."

I'll close this out by saying never miss an opportunity to tell your loved ones you love them. You never know when that last time will be.

Sorry for your loss.

My wife and I just had four people in our families die within a year of each other.

Some people just get nervous about what to say when someone dies that is close to you.

I don't recall many classes or course in HS or college that taught anything about death,

grief, etc....

It appears to be one of those taboo subjects.

[Master Live 013]

Re: You know what really grinds my gears?

So after the gym I go to buy a Powerball ticket for the next drawing (yes, I know the math, let me dream ) and at two different gas stations they couldn't sell me one because the computer wouldn't allow it.



Don't know who is in charge of it, but don't tell you won't sell me a ticket today because it is Good Friday and it is a form of gambling or at least gambling-adjacent. So my money is good any other day of the year, but today you grow a conscience? Get the **** out of here.

[ProfessaPackMan]

Re: You know what really grinds my gears?

Never heard of that lol you might’ve got the run around lol

[Bard]

Re: You know what really grinds my gears?

Never heard of that lol you might’ve got the run around lol

I buy every week and I've never heard of that happening either, lol.

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[Master Live 013]

Re: You know what really grinds my gears?

You think? Maybe it was too early? It was 6:00am. I know they can't sell tickets before or after certain hours, but I have bought a ticket at 6:00am before if I recall correctly.