Cheating

[ThreeKing]

Re: Cheating

Is that not a normal thing up in Chicago or something? You guys sound like you've never seen hot females during summer.

LOL, that's basically what I'm getting at!

Whenever the weather breaks in Chicago, the hotties come out to play, but for some reason it just feels different this year. I can't put my finger on it.

[ezekiel55]

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Is that not a normal thing up in Chicago or something? You guys sound like you've never seen hot females during summer.

I dont know if its cause I'm in a relationship, or every girl is just gettin their workout on this year.

Dont get me wrong, Chicago has always ahd beautiful women, but they disappear in the winter and like cicadas emerge once again!

[Chaos81]

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Whenever the weather breaks in Chicago, the hotties come out to play, but for some reason it just feels different this year. I can't put my finger on it.

I dont know if its cause I'm in a relationship, or every girl is just gettin their workout on this year.

You guys get into the relationship/get married since last summer? That would probably explain it.

[ThreeKing]

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You guys get into the relationship/get married since last summer? That would probably explain it.

Not for me. I've been married since '02.

[Husker_OS]

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LOL, that's basically what I'm getting at!

Whenever the weather breaks in Chicago, the hotties come out to play, but for some reason it just feels different this year. I can't put my finger on it.

The Cubs are in first place.

[ThreeKing]

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The Cubs are in first place.

LOL. That's it. Shut 'er down.

[Husker_OS]

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LOL. That's it. Shut 'er down.

Laugh if you want, but when the local team is winning, the city feeds off of it.

[Herky]

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If you have to cheat on your GF or wife, then she's just not the one for you.

And if you are someone who finds yourself cheating....it's best to stay single. You always have to put yourself in your gals shoes and see how you would feel if she cheated on you.

[DC]

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There is nothing wrong with you for wanting another woman. Monogamy isn't a natural mindset. It is a socially constructed concept. So don't feel bad. If you were with the best looking girl in the world you would still want something different.

So it doesn't matter WHAT she does to be honest

[trobinson97]

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Man, it's very normal. I know exactly how you feel. The eye tends to wander and for some reason, it seems like when the ring is on that finger, females are attracted to it. Sometimes though, your woman can make you feel so good about yourself you twist it all up and start thinking every woman wants you. As long as you are not acting on your impulses though, you should be fine. Don't let her catch you looking though. Use your peripherals.

Even if you were to mess up man, I wouldn't judge you. It's real easy for people to sit and condemn another person for mistakes that they make but to err is human. Those same people don't know what they'd do (as much they'd like to think they do) if certain situations were to occur. We all make mistakes sometimes, if you were to make one, it just confirms you're one of us . No one HAS to cheat, and saying if you have to cheat then the person you're cheating on isn't the one for you isn't exactly true.

My grandmother in law met her husband when she was very young. He was her first everything and they got married. He will be the first to tell you that he made some mistakes in that half a century or so but if you were to ask either of them (well he died a couple of weeks ago) who the one for them were, they would have said each other. The same goes for one of my aunts and her husband.

One of my best military bud's wife cheated on him while we were in basic training. This was 8 years ago, and as of 2 weeks ago they are still in love. In fact, he said it was after forgiving her that they realized how much they were the ones for each other.

But of course, those are not the rule, it just depends on the couple. And now I've kind of gone off on a tangent, but the point is man, look but don't touch.

[muggins]

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Simple answer is to gain 200 lbs so that you know you won't be able to get with the hotties even if you're single.

Right?

[youvalss]

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As long as you do it in your head it's ok, not great but ok. But think twice before cheating on your gf, and think 10 times before cheating on your wife.

[CMH]

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There is nothing wrong with you for wanting another woman. Monogamy isn't a natural mindset. It is a socially constructed concept. So don't feel bad. If you were with the best looking girl in the world you would still want something different.

So it doesn't matter WHAT she does to be honest

Exactly.

Monogamy is still pretty much a new thing in civilization. Even up till 1139, Catholic priests were able to have multiple wives so long as they cared for their first.

As a species, we weren't designed to remain with one mate. We are basically parasites with one agenda: to grow in population and take over our host, which in this case is Earth.

Staying with one partner limits our natural instinct to mate. And because we are selfish, narcissistic creatures we are immediately attracted to good looking sexual partners with a specific body type. We strive to have better looking children than the rest of the population, at least in our own perspective.

So what I'm saying is that, if you find yourself with a wandering eye or a new desire, do not think of yourself as a scum bag. Realize that it is completely natural. However, if you believe yourself to be dedicated to the person you are with and you decided, through no choice but your own, to remain faithful to one woman your entire life, than you should not go beyond looking.

I always tell people that just because you're married or dating someone does not mean that the people around you become uglier. My girlfriend has her celebrity crushes and it doesn't bother me. Why should I get jealous if she finds Taye Diggs hot? She knows I'd love to bang Scarlett Johansson and well, my point is, we're going to find other people attractive though we're dating each other.

The same will happen to you. The only time you need to worry is the day you come home and no longer find your wife attractive, either physically or mentally. Then you have a problem with your commitment.

[ThreeKing]

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As a species, we weren't designed to remain with one mate. We are basically parasites with one agenda: to grow in population and take over our host, which in this case is Earth.

Staying with one partner limits our natural instinct to mate. And because we are selfish, narcissistic creatures we are immediately attracted to good looking sexual partners with a specific body type. We strive to have better looking children than the rest of the population, at least in our own perspective.

LOL. Great post. BTW, I'm going to use this the next time she catches me looking. And I'm serious.

[DC]

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Anyone that says they will NEVER cheat has:

1. never been in an ultra-compromosing situation to test their faithfulness.

2. doesn't have the OPTIONS to cheat