Cheating

[ejrollins]

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My thing with that is, if she cheated on me, everytime I look at her, I see her with that other guy or guys. I just feel that I would resent her and couldn't move on from that.

I do believe like Chris Rock said "men are as faithful as their options". Period.

[trobinson97]

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My thing with that is, if she cheated on me, everytime I look at her, I see her with that other guy or guys. I just feel that I would resent her and couldn't move on from that.

I do believe like Chris Rock said "men are as faithful as their options". Period.

Lol, yeah I can agree with that. As much as I want to be faithful, if someone like Scarlett or Meagan Good came up to me offering a one time smash pass, I'd be hard pressed to not take them up on it. In fact, I am not gonna lie, I'd most likely do it. I don't know though. The only thing better than coochie is new coochie. It is what it is.

As for what I'd do if my woman cheated on me, well, I always think to myself that if it happened, I'd leave. My past history doesn't support those thoughts though. I actually did have a girlfriend cheat on me. The whole situation was pretty effed up. But I ended up staying with her for a few more months. She was fine as hell. I should have been paying attention to Kurupt at the time because he had a song out saying you can't make a ho a housewife.

So basically, I don't know what I'd do if my wife were to do that. It'd be hard, that's for sure. We have kids together and I really feel like she's the best thing that ever happened to me. I get frustrated sometimes, marriage is an ongoing project in patience, but I can't really see myself without her. It's just one of those things that you can never really answer for sure until you get into that situation.

[The 24th Letter]

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Even if you love her? It is a lot harder than you realize. When you truly love someone you try to work on things. I don't know what I would do if my wife cheated, but I do know I love her with all my heart. So I'm pretty sure I would take her back. If she kept on doing it then I might have to re-think that.

I couldnt do it man, I dont expect my wife to do it either....
itd def be a tough situation though

[The 24th Letter]

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So is masculinity, which hasn't stopped you from "educating" people on what it is to be a man.

true story. lol.

selective reasoning......

[TarHeelMan]

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I don't condone cheating, but I have seen instances where I understood where the cheater was coming from; like when there's a lack of intimacy (getting stalled on the trim), or when there's a decided lack of emotional support or connection. My homeboy's cousin stepped out on his girl because she was playing games with him on the intimacy. After awhile he got tired and took up this other chick on her offer. I don't even know if he considered it "cheating", cause he did call his chick up and was like, "I'm tired of these games, I keep telling you that, so now, I'm moving on to the next.."

I don't think I could cheat on my wife; especially with her background... Her father left her mother when she was young, for someone who was a friend of the family. The grass isn't always greener on the other side, like they say. I know if she stepped out on me, I would be out. Those who survive stuff like that, more power to 'em... I just think it's a miserable situation to be in... If they're late coming home, with a legitimate reason, you're more than likely gonna be sitting there thinking and wondering if they've gone astray again.

[SPTO]

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A friend of mine tells me I have no morals in regards to this. Here's what I told her.

I think that cheating is wrong in principle but let's say there's a monogamous couple or married couple. Things are going so bad that even after talking and trying to make things right things revert back to an unbearable mess. Now if the female half decides to cheat on her man because of said problems then I have no problem with it unless there are kids involved. In that case cheating on her man is just wrong and I would never partake in that.

As for myself cheating...Men are weak for the most part. It's bound to happen at least once in life. The key is learning from this mistake and settling with the right woman.

[BTB]

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I'm of the opinion that if you are really tempted to cheat, then your girl isn't the one for you. I have yet to find that girl so I have definitely had that urge, but I know that if I find the right one I won't want to cheat at all.

[CMH]

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I'm of the opinion that if you are really tempted to cheat, then your girl isn't the one for you. I have yet to find that girl so I have definitely had that urge, but I know that if I find the right one I won't want to cheat at all.

This kinda goes into my thinking. I haven't considered cheating on my girlfriend. I mean, I'm not interested in doing so and I'm not sure if I ever will be.

But as I've said before, it doesn't stop me from finding other girls attractive.

Often times, I'll even play a game with this. I get bored, I guess. I'll see an attractive girl and honestly I'll rate her on whether she's worthy of cheating with on my girl. Because there are girls that are attractive but then I think to myself, "Could I ever cheat on my girl with her? I mean, my girl is better looking than her and I know what I get from her. I can always do better."

Really, if I ever cheated on my girlfirend the chick in question would have to be super-duper fly. I need to finish the deed and feel like I accomplished something. If I think back on the chick and have to wonder why then I'll just feel like a bum.

[TarHeelMan]

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I worked with a married dude who smashed one of our co-workers; they had been flirting back and forth for a hot minute, while him and his wife was having drama. We all got stuck in NY during the blackout a few years ago, and we all started drinking. He dipped off with this chick somewhere in the building and got his smash on. I saw him the next morning, and he said he regretted it; the second he busted off, he was filled with guilt. It's just not worth it sometimes.

There are some different circumstances though, where you could almost justify cheating. My wife's cousin cheated on her husband with a dude she worked with, even moving in with the brotha. The whole family was down on her for a couple of years, until my wife talked with her, and come to find out, the husband used to box her around. And my wife's brother, never appreciated the stuff his wife used to do to try and be sexy for him. Being the tightwad he is, he used to ask her how much she spent on some lingerie she was modeling for him. So eventually, someone else noticed her and gave her the attention she wanted... It goes to the old playa line, "whatever you won't do, the next one will".

[duke776]

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I worked with a married dude who smashed one of our co-workers; they had been flirting back and forth for a hot minute, while him and his wife was having drama. We all got stuck in NY during the blackout a few years ago, and we all started drinking. He dipped off with this chick somewhere in the building and got his smash on. I saw him the next morning, and he said he regretted it; the second he busted off, he was filled with guilt. It's just not worth it sometimes.

It's a Happy now, Sad later kinda thing.

With that being said, I don't think I would cheat on a girl, I don't want to, but we're pretty stupid sometimes.

[Cebby]

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Maybe I'm odd, but I don't really get the point of cheating.

If you want to have sex with someone else, break up with the person you're with and go have sex with several other someones. If it's not worth breaking up with the person, then you shouldn't do it. Doesn't seem like too complicated of a problem.

[DC]

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I'm of the opinion that if you are really tempted to cheat, then your girl isn't the one for you. I have yet to find that girl so I have definitely had that urge, but I know that if I find the right one I won't want to cheat at all.

I don't know if I can agree with that to be honest.

Well let me ask you this first; what do you consider "Being tempted to cheat"?

[TheMatrix31]

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Maybe I'm odd, but I don't really get the point of cheating.

If you want to have sex with someone else, break up with the person you're with and go have sex with several other someones. If it's not worth breaking up with the person, then you shouldn't do it. Doesn't seem like too complicated of a problem.

I don't agree with you often, but that post is ridiculously on target.

[jmill703]

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I've been on both sides of the cheating tip. I did some dirt when I was with a girl I stopped caring about. But i've also been cheated on by girls before.

Let me play devil's advocate here:

What if a man and woman are married. And the woman starts to withold sex from the man. So he goes out and finds another woman to feed that need. Is the cheating justified?

[TheMatrix31]

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No. You divorce them then go bone whoever you want.