Cheating

[Brandon13]

Re: Cheating

I've been on both sides of the cheating tip. I did some dirt when I was with a girl I stopped caring about. But i've also been cheated on by girls before.

Let me play devil's advocate here:

What if a man and woman are married. And the woman starts to withold sex from the man. So he goes out and finds another woman to feed that need. Is the cheating justified?

Justified, no I don't think so. Understandable, hell yes.

But, like Matrix said, I think it's a pretty obvious answer that getting a divorce would make the most sense in a situation like this.

[TarHeelMan]

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Maybe I'm odd, but I don't really get the point of cheating.

If you want to have sex with someone else, break up with the person you're with and go have sex with several other someones. If it's not worth breaking up with the person, then you shouldn't do it. Doesn't seem like too complicated of a problem.

co-freaking-sign... After a couple years of marriage, we hit some rough spots. I had projects at work that demanded my attention, and my wife was sure that I was creeping with someone at the office. (she had been there and seen all the eye candy I was working with) But I had always been of the opinion that cheating takes too much work and effort; trying to get your lies and stories straight, trying to keep more than one woman happy, is just too much. So I broke it down to her, look, if I wanted to go and get down with someone else, I'd just tell you; because at that point, I must not care too much about you anymore... So I'd prefer to avoid all the drama and be up front about it.

As far as withholding sex, I think it would be justified. But I don't even think I would go about it as "cheating". Say if I was in that position, and my wife had a lock on the trim, and we've talked about it and she was aware it was causing problems, and she kept on doing it anyway, she can't complain if I break down and get it somewhere else. Knowing the way I am, I'd just come down with the logic. "Look, I told you about this before, this is what it came down to. I'll go pack my stuff and bounce"

[CMH]

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No. You divorce them then go bone whoever you want.

What if the divorce would leave you in financial jeopardy and the girl would have no problem running with your cash?

[Brandon13]

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What if the divorce would leave you in financial jeopardy and the girl would have no problem running with your cash?

Kill her.

[CMH]

Re: Cheating

Kill her.

[Cebby]

Re: Cheating

Let me play devil's advocate here:

What if a man and woman are married. And the woman starts to withold sex from the man. So he goes out and finds another woman to feed that need. Is the cheating justified?

No. If sex is that important, either divorce her, or withhold money, affection, or time from her and make it known that this will be the case until the sex resumes.

If you're going for the dastardly solution, prick her with an AIDS needle.

[ehh]

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You're a selfish piece of **** of you cheat on your significant other, simple as that for me.

Either keep it your pants or break up with the person.

[TarHeelMan]

Re: Cheating

You're a selfish piece of **** of you cheat on your significant other, simple as that for me.

Either keep it your pants or break up with the person.

I agree to an extent; sometimes I get my signals crossed with others as to what truly constitutes "cheating". To me, if I'm in a relationship, and I tell my significant other that I have a desire to be with someone else, and we already have a connection, that's not "cheating". To me cheating is when the person being cheated on is not made aware that something else is going on behind his/her back with someone else.

[ehh]

Re: Cheating

I agree to an extent; sometimes I get my signals crossed with others as to what truly constitutes "cheating". To me, if I'm in a relationship, and I tell my significant other that I have a desire to be with someone else, and we already have a connection, that's not "cheating". To me cheating is when the person being cheated on is not made aware that something else is going on behind his/her back with someone else.

I don't know who said it first but the best definition I've ever heard for cheating is, "doing anything with another girl you wouldn't do with your girlfriend/wife in the room."

[duke776]

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Maybe I'm odd, but I don't really get the point of cheating.

If you want to have sex with someone else, break up with the person you're with and go have sex with several other someones. If it's not worth breaking up with the person, then you shouldn't do it. Doesn't seem like too complicated of a problem.

You're a selfish piece of **** of you cheat on your significant other, simple as that for me.

Either keep it your pants or break up with the person.

co-freaking-sign... After a couple years of marriage, we hit some rough spots. I had projects at work that demanded my attention, and my wife was sure that I was creeping with someone at the office. (she had been there and seen all the eye candy I was working with) But I had always been of the opinion that cheating takes too much work and effort; trying to get your lies and stories straight, trying to keep more than one woman happy, is just too much. So I broke it down to her, look, if I wanted to go and get down with someone else, I'd just tell you; because at that point, I must not care too much about you anymore... So I'd prefer to avoid all the drama and be up front about it.

As far as withholding sex, I think it would be justified. But I don't even think I would go about it as "cheating". Say if I was in that position, and my wife had a lock on the trim, and we've talked about it and she was aware it was causing problems, and she kept on doing it anyway, she can't complain if I break down and get it somewhere else. Knowing the way I am, I'd just come down with the logic. "Look, I told you about this before, this is what it came down to. I'll go pack my stuff and bounce"

I agree with these three posts.

[ProfessaPackMan]

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Random bump as this was my first time reading this(was seaching for a thread on Cicadas but this and the OT Thread were the only ones that came up)and thought it was an good read with good points from both sides so I thought it would be interesting to see the responses from posters on this subject.

[dickey1331]

Being in the military it's a very interesting subject. Especially living on a boat with 80 other guys for 2 months then going on a port call. Some people do it. Some people don't. I don't look down upon them and I would never tell. Just the way it is.

[TheMatrix31]

Re: Cheating

Five years later and, yeah, I feel the same way.

[Bmore Irish]

Re: Cheating

i just try and live my life by the golden rule. and to even take it further than that, if i care about someone, and presumably if im in a relationship then i must care a hell of a lot, then i don't want to hurt them like that. i like to think im pretty good about actually having regard for other people.

as far as the topic of having the "wandering eye", i find myself doing it sometimes, and it makes me feel guilty as hell. i wonder if my girlfriend does that at all, but she's just not that kinda person, but then gain how would i know? not like someone admits stuff like that usually. no cheating for me though. ****'s ****ed up.

[Jano]

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I don't know who said it first but the best definition I've ever heard for cheating is, "doing anything with another girl you wouldn't do with your girlfriend/wife in the room."

This pretty much sums cheating up for me. I'm not gon pretend I would NEVER cheat cuz knowing myself if I allow myself to be in the situation I probably would.

But when I think about that rule or definition ehh mentioned I know when to steer away.