Should your wife take your last name?

[pfunk880]

Re: Should your wife take your last name?

lol that's not what I'm saying, I just don't see how it's an equal pairing when only one person has to change anything(name-wise)

Getting into my personal reasons for this opinion would violate the TOS.

[mjb2124]

Re: Should your wife take your last name?

Some people don't for professional reasons, etc.

I voted "No" because I didn't care. The way I saw it, there are way too many other important things to worry about than a last name - plus my wife had good reason to keep her name. She's a lawyer and didn't feel like going through the headache of getting her name changed on her law license. So she uses my name personally, but professionally she uses her name. With that said, when we have kids they'll have my last name.

[auburntigersfan]

Re: Should your wife take your last name?

It makes things a lot easier. It's how things have pretty much always been.

Plus it's kinda awkward if they don't. I don't think I have any friends whose mothers didn't take their father's name, but some of them that are divorced make it tougher. I don't always know their last name, so it's hard to call them Mrs. (insert last name here). And if by chance you accidentally say their divorced husband's last name you just feel like ****.

If she doesn't take my name then it would just be kinda awkward for me, it's hard to put a finger on it, but it just doesn't feel right that my wife wouldn't have my last name.

[Bruins]

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Voted "no." I wouldn't force my future wife to take on my last name, as most women's names I can think of just sound "funny" to me before my last name, for some reason. If she wanted to take it on, great, that's awesome, but it's not a deal-breaker and certainly won't mean we don't love each other as much as a couple with the same last name does!

[e0820]

Re: Should your wife take your last name?

My wife took my last name, as I expected her to. Thats the way its always been. Related people have the same last name. Its not rock solid there are always exceptions. But if two people are joined in marriage why start the relationship off by doing things separately? Plus if you have kids and your names are different then things get all screwed up, people start making assumptions about you, could be a big mess.

[oakfan162]

Re: Should your wife take your last name?

No. Her name, Her choice...

[ChiSox05]

Re: Should your wife take your last name?

I will want my wife to take my name unless she has a damn good reason to not, like the person who mentioned a law firm or for reasons like that. But if she didn't want to I wouldn't end the relationship but i don't think i would be happy about it. Thats just the way i feel.

[NYJets]

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I would actually take the women's name if she had an awesome last name.

That's what I was thinking.

[bsb13]

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I would be insulted if a woman didn't wont to take my last name. I just have always felt that the male is the symbol of dominance and the female should take own his last name.

I think kids should have the last name of their father as well. Even though kids are a combination of both parents...the seed originates from the father.

[Bruins]

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[Vince]

Re: Should your wife take your last name?

absolutely not...

don't know how it is in the states, but here in Canada, by law women keep their own last names..

if they want they may still use the husbands last name, but that is mostly for show.

[deaduck]

Re: Should your wife take your last name?

How's this for a concept....

Both of you take a new name.

Solves the male dominant/woman sacrafice issue, the children issue, the family unit issue...

The only one it doesn't solve is the "That's the way cave men marked their women" issue.

[bsb13]

Re: Should your wife take your last name?

How about you do what you feel is right, and I'll do what I feel is right. Problem solved right there.

[jake44np]

Re: Should your wife take your last name?

My wife has taken my last name but she still uses her last name for work.
She has been with her company for over 10 years and is a very successful saleswoman.
She did not want to confuse anyone at work when we got married so she still uses here maiden name there. It is weird to call her work or her work cell phone and get her message giving her maiden name.

I have another question why to babies to unmarried couples take the mans last name??
I am not ashamed to admit I have my SO CALLED fathers last name and I have not seen him since I was 2. My mother and father where never married but I still got his last name.
I have many friends who have kids out of marriage and they all have there last names not the mothers.

[sb24]

Re: Should your wife take your last name?

IMO unify a name. If she has the better or more historic name, choose hers. If she doesnt choose yours. Or like someone said choose a neutral name. I just think you as a married couple should have the same last name. I dont care whos or if you made it up.