GF's, Wives, In-laws & the things they do that make you go what the hell ?

[JBH3]

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Yea, I think I'm gonna pass on marriage.

[JBH3]

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Despite all the guys complaining on here, including myself, if you find the right person marriage can be one of the truly great things in life. Sure, you have to put up with some craziness, but it's worth it, at least for me.

This. I personally love being married but i agree it ain't for everyone but if it's done right it's one of the greatest enjoyments in life.

Besides the thread wouldn't be very funny if it was "GF's, Wives, In-laws and things you love about them" now would it.

Your wives were standing behind you two when you typed this huh....

Nah...I love being married too....3 weeks of every month.

[GAMEC0CK2002]

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The thing is finding somebody you're attracted to and can have fun with...but also somebody who's "quirks" you can live with. At the end of the day, we all have annoying habits/characteristics.

[TheShizNo1]

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Or y'know, you can blame the institution of marriage... since humans aren't really monogamous and marriage is just a societal construction that is relatively recent on the scheme of things and is interpreted in a multitude of ways throughout the world.

Marriages don't normally last... wonder why? Because it's an unnatural idea that puts a lot of extra stressors on a relationship that are ultimately unnecessary in most cases. The loving relationships that last for 60 years would've lasted that long without being officially married, because those people are intensely compatible and love each other regardless of any legal/religious agreement.

Some of those 40+ year married couples may have pulled the plug in the 50's or 60's's though if divorce and being a single woman over 25 years old wasn't so frowned upon back then. After a certain age, you're just going to live with the misery of a failed relationship because there's not much of an alternative in people's minds. Hence the old couples that basically hate each other but stay together until they die... it's nothing more than a relationship of convenience (and a sort of reverence for shared history) at that point.

Anyway, marriage rant over. I'm staying away from the whole idea, thanks. Life-long commitment may happen, but it won't be called a 'marriage' for me.

It's actually this that has me thinking about marriage in general as a whole. If you get married and stay w/ that person forever, could that not have happened had you just stayed committed b/f&g/f? Does the ring make you adjust to someone "quirks" and habits easier?

[~LiverpoolRed~]

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The thing is finding somebody you're attracted to and can have fun with...but also somebody who's "quirks" you can live with. At the end of the day, we all have annoying habits/characteristics.

Absolutely!

I truly believe you need to be friends with a girl before making the step into a relationship. My wife and I were friends for several years before we even went out. This way you really know the ins and outs of this woman before you decide if she is the right person for you.

[Gotmadskillzson]

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No woman wants to be a GF for 10, 20, plus years. Hell most won't go over 5 years without you putting a ring on their finger.

[techhokies]

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It's actually this that has me thinking about marriage in general as a whole. If you get married and stay w/ that person forever, could that not have happened had you just stayed committed b/f&g/f? Does the ring make you adjust to someone "quirks" and habits easier?

It's less about making the quirks more bearable and more about giving you the insurance to move on with your life. Without a ring, if a girl gets pregnant and the guy just leaves, it's much more of a burden on her. If one person gets a great job in another city, and you have to move, without a ring, it's always a risk for the other person to move, b/c if the relationship fails then they are just left in the dust. With marriage, you have made a legal promise. There are many many many other reasons to get married, but this is just one of the reasons that came to mind.

[TheShizNo1]

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It's less about making the quirks more bearable and more about giving you the insurance to move on with your life. Without a ring, if a girl gets pregnant and the guy just leaves, it's much more of a burden on her. If one person gets a great job in another city, and you have to move, without a ring, it's always a risk for the other person to move, b/c if the relationship fails then they are just left in the dust. With marriage, you have made a legal promise. There are many many many other reasons to get married, but this is just one of the reasons that came to mind.

Shouldn't your love be stronger than a legal piece of metal or paper?



[Disclaimer: I'm just playing devil's advocate here]

[deaduck]

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Shouldn't your love be stronger than a legal piece of metal or paper?

Can't speak so much for other guys but for me...

Me and the wife were "handfasted" for 5 years before we got the Legal paper for insurance/tax purposes. The ring, the paper all of it boils down to the strength of the promises you're making to each other.

I'm not bragging when I say my marriage is the envy of all our friends. We don't run extremely hot or cold. It's about stability not dependancy for us.

I love her and more importantly...she loves me.

I don't think it has to be more complicated than that.

[CreatineKasey]

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I think my mother is a much more difficult person than my girlfriend. I actually feel bad for my dad sometimes. She does a lot more of the things you guys describe... especially the stuff about not being right. Well, being the loudmouth that I am sometimes, I actually have confronted my mom about it lol. Sometimes people like that need to be tempered and brought down to reality. She's so used to my dad just taking the talk that she was in a bit of shock that I was talking that way. Yes, I respect my family, but I won't just shut up if I see something that I disagree with and feel it needs to be addressed.

My sister is getting married in September here to her highschool "sweetheart" AKA "I didn't date anyone else". I feel bad for him. She walks all over this poor guy all the time. One day, she took her boyfriend's xbox away from him because she said he played too much and because she bought it for him as a gift, she reserved the right to take it away LOL!

The only thing that concerns me about my girlfriend is she seems to not express her feelings towards me when they are negative. I can tell eventually and get her to talk, but it's always me doing that. She won't come out and say I'm doing something wrong or making her mad like I wish she would. I'm a pretty straightforward person so I'd appreciate it.

She's pretty indecisive too, so I end up picking a lot of stuff. I don't really mind, though. I just get worried that she isn't doing what she wants to and won't speak up like she should.

Other than that, she's absolutely great. I have a hard time thinking of complaints about her. It's almost uncanny how similar we are in many respects. I dislike drama and emotionally driven people who lack common sense. Somehow I found someone who isn't that way. I can say after 2 years of dating and 1 year of living together that I have no regrets.

[Hova57]

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Alright here we go.

I'm a city boy so the idea of leaving doors wide open , doors unlocked , keys to car in the car drives me up the wall. her faimily all does this.

My wife banned me from mowing the lawn , cause i don't put line in the grass when i mow.

my daughter has a doll house , if they play in it and walk away she goes behind them and re arranges all the little doll furniture into place.

she has to wipe the counters with bleach at least five times a day. i lost a lot of shirts and jeans because of this.

but i love my wife that what makes it her. i used to get mad now i just laugh at her.

[Gotmadskillzson]

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LOL I am city boy too and living in Vermont now from being raised in Chicago where you had to triple lock everything down to not having anything locked at all was a huge change for me.

Mines can't stand the smell of bleach at all and don't use it. Even doing laundry she won't use bleach, instead she uses Gain or Tide that has bleach in it. Far as wiping the counter tops down, she does that everytime she washes dishes, even the inside of the microwave.

[~LiverpoolRed~]

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When going out for a night on the town you return home to find every outfit she owns lying on the bed. Then you realize why it took so long for her to get ready. She tried on everything she owns!

[Gotmadskillzson]

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I can honestly say my wife is a very fast dresser, maybe because she was in the military. She doesn't do that try out 5 different outfits crap at all. She can take a shower and be completely dressed in 10 minutes.

[deaduck]

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My wife's dressing speed is dependent on the function but it's the reverse of what I would expect.

She gets ready for formal and business attire quickly and with a plan....but she agonizes and takes forever for casual.

I've learned to adjust our departure times for say a cook out, accordingly.