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  • DaveDQ
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    • Sep 2003
    • 7664

    #121
    Re: Worst Day of MY Life

    Originally posted by Lieutenant Dan
    Oh man....try to get out of the house and go for some walks in a park; some 'walks with God' if you will. Walk, think, and even talk to Him. It helped me a lot when I was completely alone and in need for a time in the early 90's.

    You keep posting anytime you need to. Vent, weep...whatever you need to do. It's part of coming to terms, man.
    Yes, this. Excellent advice. Don't stay in that house for long periods of time, and don't condemn yourself for getting out and doing things. You have nothing to feel guilty about. You are deeply hurt and need to wrestle with what you are feeling. Many "cried out to God" in their deepest despair and came out better. Nothing wrong with explaining your hurt and sorrow.
    Being kind, one to another, never disappoints.

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    • Flightwhite24
      Hall Of Fame
      • Jul 2005
      • 12095

      #122
      DaveDQ & Lt Dan this is excellent advice as I'm dealing what's going on with my sister. She's not doing very well and she is on life support and just by having conversations with God has helped me the last 3 days. Flying here to Calif to be with her I really spent a lot of time in thought and just asking God for strength and peace because we need him most right now.

      Hang in there Bulit as I'm thinking about you and your family. WE WILL get through this.


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      • Lieutenant Dan
        All Star
        • Sep 2007
        • 5679

        #123
        Re: Worst Day of MY Life

        Wow, FLIGHT. You hang in there, buddy. Bless you and your sister and family.
        GO 'HAWKS!

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        • Bullit
          Bacon is Better
          • Aug 2009
          • 5004

          #124
          Re: Worst Day of MY Life

          Thanks so much guys, I really appreciate all of the advice. Have been taking little walks and talking to God a lot lately. Reading a good book about Heaven.

          I just never imagined that this was something I would ever have to deal with. I am just taking it day by day, hell sometimes its just hour by hour. My heart and soul just hurt so much, but I have had some lighter moments lately that give me hope for at least a little peace someday.

          Flight I am sorry to hear about your sister. I will keep you and yours in our prayers as well. If you need to "chat" or anything just give me a yell.
          In Loving memory of my "Cricket" 1/2/96 - 11/19/2012

          My heart and soul hurt for your lost presence in my life.

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          • Lieutenant Dan
            All Star
            • Sep 2007
            • 5679

            #125
            Re: Worst Day of MY Life

            Bullit, another thing that can really help is writing. I might suggest either writing in the form of a journal, or even writing letters/emails to your daughter.

            Say what you need to say....it's a great way to help get it all out and in so doing, helps your perspective as well. In these letters, you can write her as often as you like. Even share a joke or something amusing from your day with her. Trust me, you'll feel her laughter and a warm smile. She knows you miss her and that's allright, but she loves you and would want for you to feel better too. She will also understand your pain, frustration and even anger that she's not here anymore, or at least in the form you remember her.

            Starting the process of healing and moving on will be tough and there's good days and bad days, sometimes even moment to moment. Just be patient, and keep using your walks, talks with God, writing, friends, loved ones, and even these boards as your spiritual and emotional medicine.

            God bless.
            Last edited by Lieutenant Dan; 12-06-2012, 01:34 PM.
            GO 'HAWKS!

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            Elite Dangerous on One X has become my life.

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            • Bullit
              Bacon is Better
              • Aug 2009
              • 5004

              #126
              Re: Worst Day of MY Life

              Dan,

              Thanks for this advice, I have started writing like you suggested and it did help. It was nice to "communicate" with her. I can see this helping a bunch.

              I really appreciate you.
              In Loving memory of my "Cricket" 1/2/96 - 11/19/2012

              My heart and soul hurt for your lost presence in my life.

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              • ubernoob
                ****
                • Jul 2004
                • 15522

                #127
                Re: Worst Day of MY Life

                I haven't posted in here (just subscribed) because i have no idea of what to say. Just know that the community supports you (as proven in this post) and is here for you.
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                • Matt10
                  Hall Of Fame
                  • Apr 2006
                  • 16677

                  #128
                  Re: Worst Day of MY Life

                  Bullit - doing what I do, I hear a lot about heartache and everything, and if I ever sense someone is in pain and is of faith - I direct them to music a well. A station called K-Love is one of the best ever, and was one of the catalyst to how I was saved back in June. If you have heard of K-Love, listen to it a lot more - and if you haven't, tune in - it is quite uplifting.
                  Youtube - subscribe!

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                  • Lieutenant Dan
                    All Star
                    • Sep 2007
                    • 5679

                    #129
                    Re: Worst Day of MY Life

                    Originally posted by Bullit
                    Dan,

                    Thanks for this advice, I have started writing like you suggested and it did help. It was nice to "communicate" with her. I can see this helping a bunch.

                    I really appreciate you.
                    We here all appreciate you too, man. I'm really happy this is of some help to you.
                    GO 'HAWKS!

                    OS Dibs: Anna Kendrick

                    Elite Dangerous on One X has become my life.

                    Proud PS5 and Xbox Series X Owner
                    "Best of Both Worlds"

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                    • Bullit
                      Bacon is Better
                      • Aug 2009
                      • 5004

                      #130
                      Re: Worst Day of MY Life

                      Crashed hard today. The Medical Examiner called needing the name of our old family Doctor who had retired to get her medical records. She also informed me that it could be up to 6 months before we had all of the answers about what happened.

                      My anxiety has taken off today, just feel lost and that everything is crashing down again. Have really bad heartburn on top of it. So just trying to keep myself occupied. Went out for coffee with an old from from Church and that helped but now it is all quiet and that is the hard times. Its cold and rainy so I don't feel like walking.

                      Anyway thanks for listening, you guys are great!

                      PS Thanks Matt for the radio station I will see if I can find it:wink:
                      In Loving memory of my "Cricket" 1/2/96 - 11/19/2012

                      My heart and soul hurt for your lost presence in my life.

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                      • Lieutenant Dan
                        All Star
                        • Sep 2007
                        • 5679

                        #131
                        Re: Worst Day of MY Life

                        Just breathe, my friend.

                        Have some hot tea and settle down with a movie that's just yours....and not a sad film. Relax and let the waves subside for today, as best as you are able to.
                        GO 'HAWKS!

                        OS Dibs: Anna Kendrick

                        Elite Dangerous on One X has become my life.

                        Proud PS5 and Xbox Series X Owner
                        "Best of Both Worlds"

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                        • Bullit
                          Bacon is Better
                          • Aug 2009
                          • 5004

                          #132
                          Re: Worst Day of MY Life

                          Thanks Dan. That is exactly what I am trying to do. Just talking to the ME brought it all up again. I am sitting on the couch with my dogs all snuggled up and just trying to be calm. Not knowing what happened is just the worst and hearing that it could be 6 months more just crushed me.
                          In Loving memory of my "Cricket" 1/2/96 - 11/19/2012

                          My heart and soul hurt for your lost presence in my life.

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                          • Lieutenant Dan
                            All Star
                            • Sep 2007
                            • 5679

                            #133
                            Re: Worst Day of MY Life

                            Yeah, and sad to say there are likely more days like this ahead here and there over the next six months. But each minute of each day, you're gaining some strength and that'll help you counter the setbacks better each time.

                            Keep on doing the stuff you're doing. You're on a good track.
                            GO 'HAWKS!

                            OS Dibs: Anna Kendrick

                            Elite Dangerous on One X has become my life.

                            Proud PS5 and Xbox Series X Owner
                            "Best of Both Worlds"

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                            • Bullit
                              Bacon is Better
                              • Aug 2009
                              • 5004

                              #134
                              Re: Worst Day of MY Life

                              Had really bad anxiety last night, was actually terrified to go to sleep. Feeling a bit better today. I am just trying to relax a bit.

                              But then our next door neighbor has somebody cutting trees down in our yard, which is actually 2 feet of her yard. No knock on the door, no hey mind if we do this now, nothing. Then is yelling at my wife and I for being rude and bad neighbors. I would also like to point out this lady has not come over to our house since my daughter passed away. No condolences or anything, never in checked in, but WE are the bad neighbors???

                              So this has not helped at all today. I just really cannot understand the behavior of some people.

                              On top of that all of my wife's kids are up today. While I love them very much it just making more obvious that my daughter is not here and it really makes me sad. But I know my wife needs to see her kids to, especially now. So I am just trying to get through. Some times my heart just start racing and the anxiety sets in.
                              Last edited by Bullit; 12-08-2012, 01:15 PM.
                              In Loving memory of my "Cricket" 1/2/96 - 11/19/2012

                              My heart and soul hurt for your lost presence in my life.

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                              • Nathan_OS
                                MVP
                                • Jun 2011
                                • 4465

                                #135
                                Originally posted by Bullit
                                Had really bad anxiety last night, was actually terrified to go to sleep. Feeling a bit better today. I am just trying to relax a bit.

                                But then our next door neighbor has somebody cutting trees down in our yard, which is actually 2 feet of her yard. No knock on the door, no hey mind if we do this now, nothing. Then is yelling at my wife and I for being rude and bad neighbors. I would also like to point out this lady has not come over to our house since my daughter passed away. No condolences or anything, never in checked in, but WE are the bad neighbors???

                                So this has not helped at all today. I just really cannot understand the behavior of some people.

                                On top of that all of my wife's kids are up today. While I love them very much it just making more obvious that my daughter is not here and it really makes me sad. But I know my wife needs to see her kids to, especially now. So I am just trying to get through. Some times my heart just start racing and the anxiety sets in.
                                Don't let other people get the best of you. Your neighbor is not worth any of your time if he or she didn't even give any condolences.

                                You find out who's really there for you when you're going through the worst times.

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