Yes, this. Excellent advice. Don't stay in that house for long periods of time, and don't condemn yourself for getting out and doing things. You have nothing to feel guilty about. You are deeply hurt and need to wrestle with what you are feeling. Many "cried out to God" in their deepest despair and came out better. Nothing wrong with explaining your hurt and sorrow.
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Yes, this. Excellent advice. Don't stay in that house for long periods of time, and don't condemn yourself for getting out and doing things. You have nothing to feel guilty about. You are deeply hurt and need to wrestle with what you are feeling. Many "cried out to God" in their deepest despair and came out better. Nothing wrong with explaining your hurt and sorrow.Being kind, one to another, never disappoints. -
DaveDQ & Lt Dan this is excellent advice as I'm dealing what's going on with my sister. She's not doing very well and she is on life support and just by having conversations with God has helped me the last 3 days. Flying here to Calif to be with her I really spent a lot of time in thought and just asking God for strength and peace because we need him most right now.
Hang in there Bulit as I'm thinking about you and your family. WE WILL get through this.
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Wow, FLIGHT. You hang in there, buddy. Bless you and your sister and family.GO 'HAWKS!
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Thanks so much guys, I really appreciate all of the advice. Have been taking little walks and talking to God a lot lately. Reading a good book about Heaven.
I just never imagined that this was something I would ever have to deal with. I am just taking it day by day, hell sometimes its just hour by hour. My heart and soul just hurt so much, but I have had some lighter moments lately that give me hope for at least a little peace someday.
Flight I am sorry to hear about your sister. I will keep you and yours in our prayers as well. If you need to "chat" or anything just give me a yell.In Loving memory of my "Cricket" 1/2/96 - 11/19/2012
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Bullit, another thing that can really help is writing. I might suggest either writing in the form of a journal, or even writing letters/emails to your daughter.
Say what you need to say....it's a great way to help get it all out and in so doing, helps your perspective as well. In these letters, you can write her as often as you like. Even share a joke or something amusing from your day with her. Trust me, you'll feel her laughter and a warm smile. She knows you miss her and that's allright, but she loves you and would want for you to feel better too. She will also understand your pain, frustration and even anger that she's not here anymore, or at least in the form you remember her.
Starting the process of healing and moving on will be tough and there's good days and bad days, sometimes even moment to moment. Just be patient, and keep using your walks, talks with God, writing, friends, loved ones, and even these boards as your spiritual and emotional medicine.
God bless.Last edited by Lieutenant Dan; 12-06-2012, 01:34 PM.GO 'HAWKS!
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Dan,
Thanks for this advice, I have started writing like you suggested and it did help. It was nice to "communicate" with her. I can see this helping a bunch.
I really appreciate you.In Loving memory of my "Cricket" 1/2/96 - 11/19/2012
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Bullit - doing what I do, I hear a lot about heartache and everything, and if I ever sense someone is in pain and is of faith - I direct them to music a well. A station called K-Love is one of the best ever, and was one of the catalyst to how I was saved back in June. If you have heard of K-Love, listen to it a lot more - and if you haven't, tune in - it is quite uplifting.Comment
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We here all appreciate you too, man. I'm really happy this is of some help to you.GO 'HAWKS!
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Crashed hard today. The Medical Examiner called needing the name of our old family Doctor who had retired to get her medical records. She also informed me that it could be up to 6 months before we had all of the answers about what happened.
My anxiety has taken off today, just feel lost and that everything is crashing down again. Have really bad heartburn on top of it. So just trying to keep myself occupied. Went out for coffee with an old from from Church and that helped but now it is all quiet and that is the hard times. Its cold and rainy so I don't feel like walking.
Anyway thanks for listening, you guys are great!
PS Thanks Matt for the radio station I will see if I can find it:wink:In Loving memory of my "Cricket" 1/2/96 - 11/19/2012
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Just breathe, my friend.
Have some hot tea and settle down with a movie that's just yours....and not a sad film. Relax and let the waves subside for today, as best as you are able to.GO 'HAWKS!
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Thanks Dan. That is exactly what I am trying to do. Just talking to the ME brought it all up again. I am sitting on the couch with my dogs all snuggled up and just trying to be calm. Not knowing what happened is just the worst and hearing that it could be 6 months more just crushed me.In Loving memory of my "Cricket" 1/2/96 - 11/19/2012
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Yeah, and sad to say there are likely more days like this ahead here and there over the next six months. But each minute of each day, you're gaining some strength and that'll help you counter the setbacks better each time.
Keep on doing the stuff you're doing. You're on a good track.GO 'HAWKS!
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Had really bad anxiety last night, was actually terrified to go to sleep. Feeling a bit better today. I am just trying to relax a bit.
But then our next door neighbor has somebody cutting trees down in our yard, which is actually 2 feet of her yard. No knock on the door, no hey mind if we do this now, nothing. Then is yelling at my wife and I for being rude and bad neighbors. I would also like to point out this lady has not come over to our house since my daughter passed away. No condolences or anything, never in checked in, but WE are the bad neighbors???
So this has not helped at all today. I just really cannot understand the behavior of some people.
On top of that all of my wife's kids are up today. While I love them very much it just making more obvious that my daughter is not here and it really makes me sad. But I know my wife needs to see her kids to, especially now. So I am just trying to get through. Some times my heart just start racing and the anxiety sets in.Last edited by Bullit; 12-08-2012, 01:15 PM.In Loving memory of my "Cricket" 1/2/96 - 11/19/2012
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Don't let other people get the best of you. Your neighbor is not worth any of your time if he or she didn't even give any condolences.Had really bad anxiety last night, was actually terrified to go to sleep. Feeling a bit better today. I am just trying to relax a bit.
But then our next door neighbor has somebody cutting trees down in our yard, which is actually 2 feet of her yard. No knock on the door, no hey mind if we do this now, nothing. Then is yelling at my wife and I for being rude and bad neighbors. I would also like to point out this lady has not come over to our house since my daughter passed away. No condolences or anything, never in checked in, but WE are the bad neighbors???
So this has not helped at all today. I just really cannot understand the behavior of some people.
On top of that all of my wife's kids are up today. While I love them very much it just making more obvious that my daughter is not here and it really makes me sad. But I know my wife needs to see her kids to, especially now. So I am just trying to get through. Some times my heart just start racing and the anxiety sets in.
You find out who's really there for you when you're going through the worst times.
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