Anyone try online dating sites?

[NYJets]

Re: Anyone try online dating sites?

What are some of you guys strategies for success on these sites?

Just try to move it off the site, and to meet in real life, fairly quickly. After a few lines of bantering when it seems like the convo is going well I usually ask them out, and if they respond positively I ask for their number to set it up.

I think girls top 2 complaints for online dating are creeps who send sexual messages right away, and guys acting like they are looking for a penpal more than actually wanting to meet. Just doing something in the middle of the two puts you ahead of most guys on these apps.

[CMH]

Re: Anyone try online dating sites?

Just try to move it off the site, and to meet in real life, fairly quickly. After a few lines of bantering when it seems like the convo is going well I usually ask them out, and if they respond positively I ask for their number to set it up.

I think girls top 2 complaints for online dating are creeps who send sexual messages right away, and guys acting like they are looking for a penpal more than actually wanting to meet. Just doing something in the middle of the two puts you ahead of most guys on these apps.

Yes. 100x yes.

The biggest complaint I hear from guys is: "I can't get a girl to stay interested on the site."

Reason is because you're still talking to them on the site. Think, if you meet a cool girl at the bar, do you wait to meet her at the bar again next week or do you ask for her number and talk to her to meet somewhere else?

Girls want action. Get to it. Don't do the "I send them five messages over two weeks" stuff. The second there's a shared interest (meaning she contacts you back ), you should immediately be looking to ask her out so you can meet.

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[NDAlum]

Re: Anyone try online dating sites?

My .02 for success:

Confidence: You must have it and demonstrate it. Don't be insecure.

Ask about her: let her talk and be the focal point.

Be a leader: girls want you to be in control (generally). If you want to ask them out for coffee tell them two days. Don't ask "When do you want to meet up?". Tell them: "Does Tuesday or Thursday work better for you?".

Stay within your attractiveness range: Am I mean for saying this? Yes I am. I know we all say guys here outkicked their coverage, but the level of attractiveness is at least in the same general area. Just be real with yourself.

Don't take things personally: online dating can be tough. I had a girl totally be into me and then completely drop communication. Guess what, she found another guy to talk with/date/whatever. I got dropped because she found a better option. Am I sure that happened? No. But it makes sense. A few months later she messaged me to hang out and I said no. Stand up for yourself.

[Madman55]

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Yet.

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[Bobhead]

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For what it's worth I met my current girlfriend on POF. I had some decent success on OKC too but the girls there seem a lot more pretentious and annoying for my tastes. POF seems more "normal."

And I strongly second the advice about moving off of whatever dating site as soon as possible. I usually shoot for getting a phone number within 10 messages (one way, so 20-ish total between the two of you). There's already mutual interest there. You don't need to woo them before getting a number. Do it right away.

[NYJets]

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What do you guys usually do for 2nd, 3rd, 4th, dates? Trying to think of something to do for a 3rd date with this girl. We met for a drink for the first date, and went bowling for the 2nd. I mean we could just do drinks again, or dinner, but I'm trying to think of something different. Would letting the girl pick be a bad idea?

[Bobhead]

Re: Anyone try online dating sites?

What do you guys usually do for 2nd, 3rd, 4th, dates? Trying to think of something to do for a 3rd date with this girl. We met for a drink for the first date, and went bowling for the 2nd. I mean we could just do drinks again, or dinner, but I'm trying to think of something different. Would letting the girl pick be a bad idea?

I think that depends on the girl. Some girls like the man making the decisions but there are also some that would appreciate getting to choose the date (and would actually pick something, not just say "well whatever you want is fine" :rolleyes )

Anyway, it looks like you haven't done a movie yet. Maybe try that?

[Madman55]

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I'm having the same problem right now. Went out with this girl last week, and now we're trying to come up with a 2nd date idea, nothing yet. We did 3 things last time which sort of limits (new) ideas for this 2nd one. We went for coffee, walked around a local attraction and then went out to eat. I've had a couple ideas, but don't really have the financial means for anything exciting right now unfortunately. Thought about bowling/museum/movie. Hopefully something comes up soon.

[redsox4evur]

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I would recommend a movie for the both of you.

[Mabster]

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Dinner and a movie is always classic date night. But do this, switch it up and do the movie first. Automatically gives you the movie to talk about during dinner and spark other topics.

[NYJets]

Re: Anyone try online dating sites?

I think that depends on the girl. Some girls like the man making the decisions but there are also some that would appreciate getting to choose the date (and would actually pick something, not just say "well whatever you want is fine" :rolleyes )

Anyway, it looks like you haven't done a movie yet. Maybe try that?

Yea, that's the dilemma. If it was the first or 2nd date I'd always take the lead, but maybe by the 3rd its ok to see if they want to pick.

Yea, could do that, and there's actually some stuff out I want to see. Not a huge fan of movie dates but I guess by the 3rd date its not bad.

[XtremeDunkz]

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Girls always expect the guy to have endless ideas on new things to do on dates and also endless money to pay for all these fancy dates...

[Cusefan]

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What do you guys usually do for 2nd, 3rd, 4th, dates? Trying to think of something to do for a 3rd date with this girl. We met for a drink for the first date, and went bowling for the 2nd. I mean we could just do drinks again, or dinner, but I'm trying to think of something different. Would letting the girl pick be a bad idea?

I think it depends on the girl, hopefully you have enough backround info to know what she likes to do for fun.

[seasprite]

Re: Anyone try online dating sites?

What do you guys usually do for 2nd, 3rd, 4th, dates? Trying to think of something to do for a 3rd date with this girl. We met for a drink for the first date, and went bowling for the 2nd. I mean we could just do drinks again, or dinner, but I'm trying to think of something different. Would letting the girl pick be a bad idea?

3rd or 4th date you may want to get a little bit creative like a roadtrip or something. On a recent 4th date I had, I planned a day trip to a winery that was about 45 minutes away. Picnic and wine tasting seems to do the trick as far as improving my chances on finishing later that night

[jeremym480]

Re: Anyone try online dating sites?

What do you guys usually do for 2nd, 3rd, 4th, dates? Trying to think of something to do for a 3rd date with this girl. We met for a drink for the first date, and went bowling for the 2nd. I mean we could just do drinks again, or dinner, but I'm trying to think of something different. Would letting the girl pick be a bad idea?

Do they have anything special for Christmas around you?

In New Orleans they have this thing called Celebration in the Oaks where you walk through and they have a lot of Christmas Lights on display. Once you get to the the end that have a small (fair like) amusement park with rides like a ferris wheel, carousel, bumper cars, etc. and booths where you can win prizes. I think going to something like that would be a nice date.