Should your wife take your last name?

[bsb13]

Re: Should your wife take your last name?

So if your wife had a lot of pride in her last name, who cares?

Maybe I'm wrong but I would say that it seems to be more of a thing that men care about. If a woman did have a lot of pride in her last name I'm not gonna say that it doesn't matter...its something we could definitely talk about. But one things for sure, I'm not taking her last name no matter what. Thats just the way I feel about it.

[bsb13]

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LOL, I never said it was. I think it's funny that apparently the only thing men have is just a word, a title.

Well apparently your wrong. Nobody ever said thats the only thing men have.

[Bruins]

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Well apparently your wrong. Nobody ever said thats the only thing men have.

What?

A man's last name is everything.

[mjb2124]

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I will go out on a limb and say the vast majority of men would raise an eyebrow if the woman they wanted to marry said she didnt want to have his last name. I think those who say it doesnt bother them are probably in the minority.

Not me and it definitely doesn't bother me... Although she had good reason to keep her last name so I suppose that could be why I had no problem with it.

Like I said, if she didn't want to sleep in the same house or wanted to sleep with other men, then I'd have an issue. Having an issue over a name? Nah... Too many other things in life to get worked up about for me. .

[bsb13]

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What?

I think we are getting a little too technical with words. I'll bet you anything by "everything" he didn't mean EVERYTHING.

[mgoblue]

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Not me... Although she had good reason to keep her last name so I suppose that could be why I had no problem with it.

I agree there...there are tons of professional reasons (PHD's, doctors, etc) where it makes sense. As long as she has a reason, then I don't mind...but if she doesn't have a reason then why wouldn't it be fine to change?

[bsb13]

Re: Should your wife take your last name?

Not me and it definitely doesn't bother me... Although she had good reason to keep her last name so I suppose that could be why I had no problem with it.

Like I said, if she didn't want to sleep in the same house or wanted to sleep with other men, then I'd have an issue. Having an issue over a name? Nah... Too many other things in life to get worked up about for me. .

But what about the kids? Would it bother you if she didnt want the kids to have your last name?

[Heelfan71]

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bitch better

[mjb2124]

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But what about the kids? Would it bother you if she didnt want the kids to have your last name?

Honestly, I'm not sure.. When she said she wanted to keep her last name due to her profession and having to change her law license, I said that's fine - what about kids? She said she figured they'd have my last name. I said that's fine as well.

[JohnnytheSkin]

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A man's last name is everything. It's an insult if she doesn't accept that.

x2

Seriously, the way some of you guys care so much if your wife takes your name says more about you as a person than anything else. Telling others to "man up" and "wear the pants" is laughably misogynistic and extremely sad.

[mgoblue]

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x2

Seriously, the way some of you guys care so much if your wife takes your name says more about you as a person than anything else. Telling others to "man up" and "wear the pants" is laughably misogynistic and extremely sad.

Yeah, I think it warrants at least a discussion to see why she wouldn't want to change (like mjb's wife)...

That being said, I don't think I'd want my kid to have a hyphenate last name, that just gets unwieldy.

[snepp]

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x2

Seriously, the way some of you guys care so much if your wife takes your name says more about you as a person than anything else. Telling others to "man up" and "wear the pants" is laughably misogynistic and extremely sad.

It's par for the course in any topic where 'manhood' is involved in some way, unfortunately.

mjb echoed my sentiments pretty well.

[JohnnytheSkin]

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I understand that it's something that needs talking about when two people are in love and going to get married...but the discussion here, for the most part, is as follows:

Man: It's the default tradition to take the man's name, so will you?
Woman: I don't want to.
Man: Why not?
Woman: [insert any reason here]
Man A: ***** get out of my life you are crazy, I hate you and never want to see your disrespectul face in my life again.

or

Man B: I see your reason, let's talk like civilized people and figure out a compromise since we love each other and are committing ourselves to each other in marriage.

[wolverine2481]

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If i got married, sure i would want her to take my last name, but she is a woman it is her choice in the first place. Also how many women wouldnt take her husbands last name. know what i mean.

[jmood88]

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I just want to know what these guys who say that their wife has to have a good reason for not taking it, what their reason is for her to take it. I've still just seen people say that it's just because of how it's been without having a real good reason for it.