Anybody else glad that they DON'T have kids?

[DaveDQ]

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Re:2nd question Absolutely. I've already inquired about the big brother program and plan to give seminars to kids who want a creative career. I've already done some teaching, and I'll be speaking to a class in upstate New York this October.

Re:1st question This goes without saying, as 99.9 percent of the population engages in a majority of self serving activities, which is a necessity for both literal and abstract survival.

I was looking at your art earlier and it's very well done. I work in graphic design and can appreciate what you do. You wanting to share it by giving seminars etc. is a great thing.

Something that I really sit back and take in with my kids is seeing their creative skills develop. For instance, my oldest son will draw all his superheroes with a smile, whereas my other boy will put a simple straight line for his mouth. It's really interesting to me how their own personalities and perceptions sway what they put on paper. Not only that, but I see myself in them. I also see my wife in them. It's really a beautiful thing.

Even seeing my boys' personalities and how my oldest is just like me, wanting everything to be in order and neat. Meanwhile, my second son, Sammy, can take his clothes off and throw them across the room without caring.

Anyway, I respect your outlook on having kids, but I also really respect that you are willing to branch out into something like the boys club and give kids something that perhaps their parents haven't.

[NDAlum]

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Idiocracy...classic. Well at least that part. The rest was stupid lol

[Pappy Knuckles]

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28 and very happy that I have no children.

[Bornindamecca]

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I was looking at your art earlier and it's very well done. I work in graphic design and can appreciate what you do. You wanting to share it by giving seminars etc. is a great thing.

Thanks a lot, man. It was more of a natural progression. In moving forward with both my skills and my ability to sell those skills, I learned a lot of stuff. People started asking me to show them, or their younger siblings or children how to do that, and it worked out. In realizing I had the ability to help people, I see it as an obligation once I'm in a position to do so. If it's something I'm good at, I'll expand on it in a bigger way, which I've already set up with a few friends with experience in such things.

[ScoobySnax]

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I definitely want kids, but it would be disastrous if it happened now. I'm 26 and I'm going to grad school. My fiancee is about to start Pharm school. So once we're done with school, we'll look to having kids. I'll be 30-31 then and I believe I'll be ready then.

I've always believed that you should get yourself in a position (financially) where you don't have to bring kids in a effed up situation. It really isn't fair to the child. I was one of those kids (and that's no disrespect to my mother either. I love her to death and I'm very thankful for her).

[Hova57]

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I cannot fathom why other people being happy about not having children would upset you as a father. It has no effect on your life, and is not a moral decision that goes against any known set of values.


Dice: Somewhere in the back of my head in my 20s, I thought that a switch would flip when I hit 30 if I was happy in my career. It's almost like the opposite has happened. The more successful I become, the happier I am that I never had kids. It's mine, all mine I tell ya! MINE!

like i said the when you first read the title and then the first couple of post after yours it was upsetting. i felt like i had to say something. Chill you are doing your thing. i never once blasted you for it. l just wanted to add my two cents bout having kids

[CMH]

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I was recently told by an older woman that I'm a good catch because I'm 28 and have no kids. I'm not sure what that means exactly, but I was mostly disappointed that it was my best selling point.

Ok, seriously, I am also glad I don't have kids. When I was younger, I was very serious about never having any, but I've loosened up a bit in that regard. Do I want any right now? No. Not at all. I can barely support myself, what will I do with a little me running around?

Someday, I imagine I'm going to want a little guy or girl to call my own. Sometimes I say to myself I want to do it to prove I can be better than my father (sad justification, but it's how I feel at the moment). I don't know when that time will come, but I don't want it to come anytime soon.

I'm far too busy building my life and career. If I had a child right now, I'd be the father I never wanted to be.

[Hammerhunker]

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Upon wandering into this thread and then reading through the posts I was initially shocked and appalled. How could anybody be so self-centered to verbally announce the desire and happiness in not having children? I didn't respond thank goodness after my initial reaction.

After thinking about many of these posts for a while, I realized that any person with the maturity to make such a comment should be applauded. See, being an elementary school teacher I continually see the result of those "adults" that never gave a mature thought into procreation. Procreating was like getting a puppy..."they're cute, and it will be a blast." Raising a child is not like raising a puppy.

With tounge in cheek, I have commented many times that this country should require a license for a person to have a child. Instead, I wish that every person could be as many of you, honest. Imagine what could come of that?

[Hova57]

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Upon wandering into this thread and then reading through the posts I was initially shocked and appalled. How could anybody be so self-centered to verbally announce the desire and happiness in not having children? I didn't respond thank goodness after my initial reaction.

that was my exact feeling, but alot of these guys at least seen what could happen or know it wasn't the right time. which is fine

[Cusefan]

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25 and no kids, I do have a dog and she is a handful. I think I will wait until I meet a girl who is not completly insane...

[ProfessaPackMan]

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Wish I could show this thread to alot of people that live in this area because going out to the Malls, out to eat or anywhere in this area I see people around my age and even younger talking about wanting to have Kids like it's a pair of Jordans they just seen in a Foot Locker and I just laugh and shake my head in disbelief while hearing it and I say to myself "You have the easiest life in the world right now but you want to make it difficult for YOU and have a child NOW just because?" SMH.

[ScoobySnax]

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I was recently told by an older woman that I'm a good catch because I'm 28 and have no kids. I'm not sure what that means exactly, but I was mostly disappointed that it was my best selling point.

Ok, seriously, I am also glad I don't have kids. When I was younger, I was very serious about never having any, but I've loosened up a bit in that regard. Do I want any right now? No. Not at all. I can barely support myself, what will I do with a little me running around?

Someday, I imagine I'm going to want a little guy or girl to call my own. Sometimes I say to myself I want to do it to prove I can be better than my father (sad justification, but it's how I feel at the moment). I don't know when that time will come, but I don't want it to come anytime soon.

I'm far too busy building my life and career. If I had a child right now, I'd be the father I never wanted to be.

LOL. YP, you're a trip man!

[JohnnytheSkin]

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IMO a kid deserves no negative connotation at all. Anything to refer to their innocence in a condescending, yet cutesy way isn't justified.

OK, I said my minor piece and stepped out, reading with amusement at everyone's comments.

Innocence though? The world isn't all "sunshine and rainbows" and to pretend that children are so closed off from the real world no matter how sheltered they are raised is just ignorant.

Kids of all ages see, hear, watch, experience, touch things that would make even Dana Carvey's Church Lady faint of shock.

Just be realistic with your child and play to their maturity level. No need to hide the ugly (and often beautiful) truth of the real world.

[Bellsprout]

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Won't you at some point in time want to give yourself to something that doesn't serve your own personal gain?

I'll give to charity. Do volunteer work. Something that isn't a 24/7/365 job like a kid is.

Once again, it's probably because I'm wired different, but I only get 1 life. I'm going to make the most of it. And I'm not going to let something like a kid hold me back from being truly happy.

[LionsFanNJ]

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I'm 31 married 5 years, and am glad i don't have kids. We're struggling as it is without them, and the bad luck/experiences just keep adding up.